That sting becomes humiliating when you realize that your profile isn’t attracting any traffic whatsoever.That empty “recent visitors” entry seems to mock you, a confirmation of every fear and insecurity you’ve ever had and a sign that you’re simply doomed to be alone forever.
Your potential matches want to know what you look like! The more they have to work, the less likely they are to click through.
You may want to consider having some photos taken by a professional; they can help ensure you have a sharp looking profile photo. There may be a setting or two in there that is causing you to not show up in people’s searches.
For all you know, that flirtation or date could be the moment that makes them realize how much they like you.
Until you’ve both agreed to disable your profiles, it’s best to simply pretend that you can’t see theirs. It’s bad enough when you’re sending out message after message and getting nothing in return.
What seems like a simple, intuitive choice can make the difference between a happy first date and echoing silence in your inbox.