I don’t care too much about Valentine’s Day – I just enjoy spending time together. I want to ignore him right now because I’m so angry. Usually this is the sign of an ambivalent man – one who isn’t sure what he wants. It takes time to observe a man’s behavior in a variety of situations.
You are watching for consistency in a man’s actions.
actual dating scene looks a little more like this: You swipe right, and so does he. Like tons of other singles, I’ve signed up for the apps and websites that promise easy, endless matches: Match, e Harmony, Tinder, Hinge, Coffee Meets Bagel, OKCupid — you name it, I’ve tried it. But I had a sneaking suspicion that this 21st-century way of dating might actually be stunting our personal growth.
Dating, as we once knew it, feels pretty much over. “Laid-back guy, who likes sports and craft beer, just looking for a girl to have fun with” — you and every other man, apparently. Are we now too afraid to approach interesting people in real life because we know we can just go back to the comparative “ease” of approaching people online?
At the end of every date or time together he has followed up quickly… He quizzed me about the day asking when I’m free and what work I’m doing now. I really like this guy and i thought he really liked me, you know? But if he were as into you as he was acting, why would he risk turning you off? When a man tells you he’s been so busy, that’s the biggest RED FLAG. Let me help you with understanding men and explain what those words could mean: He could also be pulling away like so many men do when things are going well and it occurs to them that a relationship is starting.
He’s been attentive, making dates, really into me and then suddenly –a week before Valentine’s Day– he didn’t make time to see me. So I sent him a text advising him of my first day off in 4 weeks. I hate to break this to you, but “I’m so busy” is Man Speak or code to cover a bunch of circumstances.
I look for that inexplicable “click.” I’m not the hook-up type. Before making my decision, I need to understand how to do it the right way — without it being a total waste of my time and energy (or a source of stress).